50 Self Help Classics To Transform Your Life

Law of Attraction

1. We don't attract what we want, but what we are. Only by changing your thoughts will you change your life.
2. There is an easier way to get what you want from life, involving attunement with nature and the universe.
3. Achieving happiness does not have to depend on events. Through mental practice we can form the ability to be happy most of the time.
4. Make sure that you have time in your life just to think.
5. Cultivation of an optimistic mindset significantly increases your chances of health, wealth, and happiness.
6. We cultivate the positive - like any good habit you start off small, but the end benefits are great.
7. Miracles start to happen when we resolve to depend fully on God and decide to love ourselves.
8. The universe constantly and obediently answers to our conceptions; whether we travel fast or slow, the track is laid for us. Let us spend our lives in conceiving then.
9. We can never know exactly why things happen, why people act the way they do, but it is not up to us to judge anyway; there is a larger meaning to events and lives that escapes us. This knowledge itself is a comfort.
10. By understanding how the subconscious mind works, you can learn how dreams become reality.
11. Ask a quality question and you will get a quality answer.
12. Continually send out messages of goodwill and blessing to those close to you, to your work colleagues, even to your nation. This not only gives you a feeling of great peace, but you will find yourself “protected” from harm and wrath.
13. Circumstances do not make a person, they reveal him.
14. Most of us are anxious to improve our circumstances, but are unwilling to improve ourselves—and we therefore remain bound.
15. A successful person or community, in short, is one who is most efficient at processing failure.
16. The best path to success is calmness of mind.
17. People work perfectly. Program in new thoughts, actions, and feelings and you get a new life.
18. The Gita says that higher even than the peace of meditation is the peace that comes from surrender of the fruit of one’s actions; in this state we are free from the rigidity of set expectations, allowing the unexpected and remarkable emerge.
19. With perfect meditation comes perfect act,” says The Bhagavad-Gita.
20. If you only have one way to do something, you’re a robot. If you only have two ways to do something, you’re in a dilemma. You need at least three ways to do something before you have the beginning of some real flexibility.
21. He whose peace is not shaken by others, and before whom other people find peace, beyond excitement and anger and fear—he is dear to me. - Sri Krishna, Bhagavad Gita
22. If God is for us, who can be against us? (Romans 8:31) - The Bible
23. You can achieve anything if you have faith. “According to your faith, be it unto you.”

Success

1. No matter what happens to you, you always have freedom of mind.
2. It is our duty to free ourselves from hate, disease, and restlessness. This is not to be done by rejecting the world, but by cultivating love, health, and calmness within it. The ideal state is to “feed on joy,” joy that can be self-generated, flowing from an ever-reliable source; one no longer has to rely on the events and conditions of the world for happiness.
3. Whatever the pressures, be your own person.
4. The meaning of life is the meaning that you decide to give it. No matter what the circumstances, we can be free.
5. Business success is the result of passion for a vision or a product, not the organization.
6. Constant self-improvement and a love of learning form your ticket to unusual success.
7. If you would not be forgotten, as soon as you are dead and rotten, either write things worth reading, or do things worth the writing.
8. “Leaders are readers”: Read at least a dozen non-fiction books a year and your life will be immeasurably enriched and improved.
9. James Hillman goes further to point out the poverty of seeing our mothers and fathers as, literally, mum and dad, when nature could be our mother, books our father—whatever connects us to the world and teaches us.
10. The truly successful person will always have achieved emotional self-mastery.
11. Make your life easier and more effective by attunement with the natural “flow” of the universe.
12. By identifying what you’re good at, then doing more of it, success will come easily. You must do something that comes easily to you and that you love, so that you have a tremendous advantage over others and can rise to the top of your field.
13. The decision to incorporate more challenge into your life brings a feeling of security because you know that you can tackle anything.
14. Become one of those who get it. Break the code of human nature, and find out what makes other people tick.
15. Our body/brain is a brilliant self-contained system for achieving goals. Use it.

Your time in limbo:

1. Make sure that you find time to be alone. Welcome the emptiness. Go somewhere with few distractions where you can do literally nothing, but don’t expect any great revelations. The point is to pay attention to your dreams and thoughts.
2. Keep a diary or log of your neutral-zone experiences, or write your autobiography. Give yourself the chance to “rewrite” your life story.
3. Try to discover what you really want, what your purpose for living may be. If your life ended today, what you do feel you should have done by now?

Self-Awakening

1. When we are ready to move on, opportunities will appear and it will be an exciting time.
2. Ralph Waldo Emerson, who said, “Not in his goals but in his transitions man is great.”
3. He’s a nice boy who pleases not only his mother but also the young woman he is living with.
4. Warrior (youthful) energy, if not honored or channeled, ends up being expressed as teen gang warfare, wife beating, pedophilia, and feelings of shame. If used rightly, it can become a source of delight to everyone in its refinement.
5. Feelings are not facts. Always question whether your emotions accurately reflect reality.
6. Your emotions follow your thoughts just as surely as baby ducks follow their mother.
7. Appreciate the rich experience of life, despite circumstances. Low expectations make for pleasant surprises.
8. Always do what you love and appreciate your life as a wonderful journey.
9. Put your little struggles into perspective; by doing this you can gain more enjoyment of other people and life generally.
10. We could stop trying to uphold our own importance, we would start to see the grandeur of the universe.
11. When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
12. ...no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.
13. Goals are so enjoyable to pursue: They bring “order in awareness,” irrespective of the feeling one may get in seeing a goal actually achieved.
14. Better than a hundred years not seeing the Path supreme is one single day of life if one sees the Path supreme.
15. The key teaching of The Dhammapada is “being in the world but not of the world.”
16. You can never please everyone! The main thing is to concentrate on your own work, your integrity - to be independent of the good opinion of others.
17. Nirvana is not obliteration of the world of the senses but being able to live within it in total independence. In Pali, nirvana means “extinction” - of the afflictions of greed, hate, conceit, delusion, doubt, and arbitrary opinion.
18. When you are aligned with your higher self and your life purpose, miraculous things happen.
19. We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience.
20. There are no accidents in life. Each experience we have, no matter how painful, eventually leads us to something of higher value. When looking back,
21. We can see that everything made sense and was part of an unfolding plan.
22. A political victory, a rise of rents, the recovery of your sick or the return of your absent friend, or some other favorable event raises your spirits, and you think good days are preparing for you. Do not believe it. Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. Nothing can bring you peace but the triumph of principles.
23. The golden key to better relationships is the acceptance of differences.
24. We should try not to see love in terms of “making relationships work.” Rather, love is an “event of the soul”. Love is relief from the mundane, sanitized nature of modern life, a door into mystery, which is why we seize it with such force.
25. Fill your emptiness by living soulfully. Let your individuality out by accepting your idiosyncrasies and dark side.
26. You will only begin to change your life when you learn how to love yourself properly.
27. If you have the ability to still your mind and invoke feelings of peace by realizing you are not alone, you can never really feel insecure again.

Who or what is a mindful person?

1. Ability to create new categories.
2. Openness to new information.
3. Awareness of more than one perspective.
4. Attention to process (doing) rather than outcome (results).
5. Trust of intuition.

Archetypes

Each of us tends to think and act according to patterns or “archetypes.” Become aware of their power and use them to your advantage.

1. It is time to seize the day and live the life you've imagined. This is your starter kit.
2. If life is thought of as a game, we are motivated to learn and apply the rules for our own happiness.
3. History is full of people who achieved amazing things by sheer will and persistence.
4. Character is power, more than knowledge is power.
5. By appreciating and expressing your uniqueness, you literally enable the evolution of the world.

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50 Prosperity Classics: Attract It, Create It, Manage It, Share It

Principles for Attracting Wealth

• Paradoxically, wealth (and happiness) comes most easily to those who forget themselves in the service of others. The law of giving infallibly returns more to the giver than they contribute.
• When you focus on other people and circumstances as the source of your prosperity, you tend to lose it. But when you recognize God, a higher power, or the universe as the source of your supply, money begins to flow. Actual money does not make you secure; what does is a thorough knowledge of the universe’s power to provide.
• To receive good things you must first cleanse your mind of clutter and negative emotions. In forming a vacuum, you allow good things to rush in. 
• When you are resentful, you are bound to the person or situation you resent. In forgiving, you free yourself and allow the floodgates of prosperity to open.
• The universe is perfectly ordered, therefore the person who makes their own affairs more orderly is attuned to universal riches. To receive more money, you must first demonstrate that you can manage what you already have well, however little it is.
• The basic law of the universe is tht things come into being that did not exist before. When you create mental pictures of health, wealth, and happiness, you are not trying to change the laws of nature, but instead fulfilling your unique promise to bring these things into being.
• According to the law of attraction, whatever you put your attention on through thought or desire becomes reality. You attract to yourself things or people that are the equivalent of your current state of being, or “vibration.”
• The “creative process” is the specific way in which you can use the law of attraction to obtain what you want. It involves: Asking the universe, and being very clear about what you want; Believing, acting, and speaking as though you have already received what you have asked for; and Receiving—feeling great that it is coming to you, which sets up the necessary vibration to manifest the desire. This process is summed up in the Bible: “All things whatsoever ye pray and ask for, believe that ye have received them and ye shall have them.
• Deciding to elevate your mood or feeling in each moment is vital for increasing your vibration, which in turn attracts things, people, and feelings of a like vibration. To be both rich and happy, you must make a positive mental attitude a basic habit of living.
• If you are low on funds, praise and bless whatever you have, and imagine it growing larger. Blessing both what you have and what others have puts the law of increase into motion.
• Gratitude is the key to an abundant life, because it puts you in a state of mind that attracts even more of what you are grateful for. Love, appreciation, and thanks are the essence of prosperity. It is right to become a giver, but you must also learn to be a good receiver.

Principles for creating wealth

• The foundation of a prosperous life (combining material wealth, health, and mental wellbeing) is personal character, formed from self-control and cultivation of virtue. A person of integrity, trust, and good character is “bankable”; their riches evolve out of who they are as much as what they do.
• Definiteness of purpose is essential to the success of the wealth creator. A clear purpose enables you to see setbacks as temporary, banishes fear and doubt, and inspires the help of others.
• Do more than is asked or expected of you, “go the extra mile.” Putting in an extraordinary effort with no guarantee of gain is the basis of most great fortunes.
• Whatever you do, provide, or create, make sure you do it in an outstanding way. Remember the Latin dictum In excellentia lucrum—in excellence is profit.
• The fear of failure or embarrassment is the greatest obstacle to achieving wealth. Fear puts a brake on action, yet if you are not willing to fail you will forever be bound in circumstances that involve little risk. With little risk there are only small rewards.
• Learn, don’t blame. It is easy to blame people or events when things are not going smoothly, but the enlightened wealth creator seeks only to learn in every situation. Don’t complain, look for opportunities.
• Thinking big is the basis of all great enterprises and fortunes. You are constantly thinking, therefore it takes no more effort to think big instead of small.
• Wealth flows to the person who has a high tolerance for uncertainty or disappointment.
• Handle disappointment well, and you will make more attempts to achieve your goals. By the law of averages, where others have given up you will succeed.
• Wealth-minded people do not try to avoid risk or complexity. They even embrace large problems because they know that solving them can produce significant value. It is not enough to want to be rich, you must commit to it. Providence moves all for the person who determines to stick it out, doing what they can to make a venture work. The half-hearted achieve half-success.
• Choose your vocation wisely. Love of your work sets up a “circle of excellence” that cannot fail to deliver great gains over time. But along with love and talent, you must work hard.
• If you think you see the future, act on it. Hunches based on in-depth knowledge are usually right. If something captures your imagination, chances are it will capture that of others too.
• Everything that you see around you, someone has made a fortune from. All you need is one idea that can make you your fortune, and it is probably to be found in your own backyard.
• Don’t be afraid to be different. On entering any new field or an industry, aim to really shake it up and provide new value.
• The surest way to wealth is to create a product or service that increases the ease and speed of results.
• Above all, it is customers that create wealth. Have customers before you even start your business.
• The seed of entrepreneurship is a wish to be in control of your own destiny.
• The purpose of entrepreneurship is to deliver new satisfaction and value. It is built on unexpected successes that are quickly capitalized on.
• Riches follow ownership. Own something, or at least a part of something.
• Have many sources of income. Do not depend on a single wage for your financial security.
• Wealthy people create money-producing systems. Middle-class people work within and for these systems, and so never get rich.
• All wealth is created first in the mind. Therefore, a political-economic system that fosters and protects the freedom to think, innovate, create, and prosper, with free and open markets in which to trade the product, is a moral system. 

Principles for Managing Wealth

• Live within your means. If you are not wealthy, do not have a wealthy lifestyle. You will get rich by imitating the mindset of the wealthy, not by imitating their spending.
• Poor people are focused on spending money; the wealthy are focused on creating it, saving it, and investing it.
• Most people see money as cash in their hands to be used and spent. Wealthy people understand money primarily as seeds to be planted that will grow into money trees.
• Plan your spending. Never shop on impulse. The longer you plan a purchase for, generally the more money you will save.
• Document your spending. It is the first step to getting control of your finances. Become a habitual saver. Pay yourself the first 10 percent of what you earn, before tax, and invest it. The discipline of saving (given a certain amount of time) can make you rich. Do not risk your peace of mind or relationships by chasing a quick dollar.
• Use the magic of compound interest by reinvesting all interest or dividends you earn.
• Savings allow you to pick up bargains and take advantage of opportunities.
• Earning more will not solve your debt problem (debts increase to match earnings). Learning how to manage money responsibly will.
• The frugal enjoy what they have more, get more use out of what they own, and delight in the ability to make gifts when they wish.
• Have an emergency fund that covers your living expenses for three to six months. If something happens and you need money, you will not have to go into debt or depend on the charity of others.
• Resist invitations to own a credit card. Debit cards now perform all the functions that credit cards were once useful for, and will not lead you into a debt spiral.
• Pay for most things with cash. You will spend less.
• When you do borrow money, make sure it is for a productive asset or one that is likely to appreciate, and pay off the loan as soon as you can.
• Don’t be someone who “knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.” In stock investing, consider yourself part owner of a company you are investing in, not a trader.
• Don’t try to beat the market or speculate. Trust the long-term ability of stock markets to deliver good returns overall.
• With the power of leverage and modest price appreciation, plus a normal degree of patience, in two or three decades you can build a real-estate fortune.
• Too little or too much money magnifies personal deficiencies, or reveals the good character that was already there. Therefore, in relation to your financial life, work you do on your personal qualities is never wasted. 

Principles for sharing wealth

• Money is a kind of energy and it is always active. To bring the greatest benefit to the greatest number, it must flow and circulate.
• Generating, using, and spending money in a way that is consistent with your deepest values has a healing effect not only on yourself but on the world.
• You never really possess wealth, but are a steward of it until you die. When a fortune is made, the creator has a duty to apply at least some of it to causes and projects that will assist and elevate others.
• With clear goals and a focus on results, private wealth in the form of foundations can change the world.
• Prosperity’s basis is a healthy natural environment. Without clean air, water, and a fertile earth humanity has nothing. Invest, spend, or make money in a way that causes no harm and is good for the planet.
• If given access to finance, the world’s poorest people will strive for, and achieve, self-reliance and prosperity.

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50 Prosperity Classics

• To obtain your desired outer results, you must first master the inner game of wealth.
• You must daily practice the habit of putting your mind at rest, “going into the silence,” as it is  commonly called. This is a method of replacing a troubled thought with one of peace, a thought of weakness with one of strength.
• What we visualize tends to come into being. Use this invisible but logical power to turn any desire into reality.
• Mental conditioning is the foundation of wealth; once your goals are programmed in, success comes easily.
• You are a powerful magnet, attracting into your life the equivalent of whatever you are strongly feeling or thinking about.
• The key to manifesting your desires is to assume that your desire is already being experienced, that you already have it and are enjoying it. In this  way, you set up a level of vibration that can only attract its material equivalent.
• Do you wish for kindness? Be kind. Do you ask for truth? Be true. What you give of yourself you find; Your world is a reflex of you.
• Once the work is done on the mental plane, you can be assured your pictured good will manifest on the outer plane just as soon as the time, people and events have arranged themselves accordingly. If you transform your beliefs about spirituality and wealth, you can welcome great well being and prosperity into your life.
• Do What You Love, the Money Will Follow. Work that is consciously chosen naturally expresses the interests and abilities of the worker, and in doing it, he or she becomes a confident and satisfied individual.
• You will only become truly prosperous when you have disciplined your mind. Paradoxically, wealth (and happiness) comes most easily to those who forget themselves in their service to others.
• You can’t move on to something better without having fulfilled what is expected of you in the current position.
• “Shake off the delusion that you are being injured or oppressed by another,” Allen tells the reader, “you are only really injured by what is within you. 
• There is no practice more degrading, debasing, and  soul destroying than that of self-pity.”

Wealthy People

• Allen identifies three “money mountains”—investing, real estate, and marketing—from which the average person should, with just a little knowledge and effort, be able to obtain at least 10 streams of income that keep flowing in, in the process creating freedom from a single employer.
• The wealth creator has a moral obligation to enrich the lives of others in whatever way they can.
• Poor people see money simply as cash in their hands, to be used as soon as they get it. Rich people, in contrast, understand money primarily as seeds to be planted that will grow into “money trees.”
• “Poverty is when large efforts produce small results. Wealth is when small efforts produce large results.”
• You must “stop the leaks.” One leak is taxes. Wealthy people are not afraid to spend money on getting the best tax advice available.
• They make sure that most of their purchases are planned. Generally, the longer the time frame before a purchase, the less you will pay (as oil magnate J. P. Getty put it, “I buy my straw hats in the fall”).

1. They ask for and get discounts (“never pay retail”).
2. They always get receipts, check them, and then once they get home put the receipts into a categorized file.
3. They balance their accounts on a regular basis.

• “Working for someone else, unless you own a piece of the profits, is not security. It’s just the illusion of security.”
• The foundation of success in life is good health:
• The possession of a perfect knowledge of your business is an absolute necessity in order to insure success
• There are no shortcuts to wealth, aside from right vocation, good character, and perseverance—and don’t forget to advertise.

Stocks

• If you invest in stocks at all, put your money in a fund that automatically owns a little bit of every company listed. Over time, it is a sure and almost worry-free way to accumulate wealth.
• Don’t invest in stocks, invest in the businesses behind them. 
• “[Once] you have bought your stocks, get out of the casino and stay out.

Entrepreneurship

• The purpose of entrepreneurship is to deliver new satisfaction and value, and it is built on “unexpected successes” that are quickly capitalized on.
• The entrepreneur is on the lookout for: “the unexpected”: an unexpected success, failure, or event (see below)  incongruities: between things as they ought or are said to be, and how they actually are  problems with an existing process for which no one has provided a solution changes in how an industry or market operates that take everyone by surprise  demographic (population) changes changes in “perception, mood or meaning”
• Rich people think differently to the average person. Copy the way they think, and you will be ready to become rich yourself.
• Building a fortune is one thing, but seeing it put to good use while you are alive is an even greater satisfaction.
• Don’t focus too much on your present conditions, only on what you are on your way to becoming.
• Private wealth in the form of foundations is a valuable “third force” in changing the world. They must get more rigorous about where their money is most efficiently and usefully deployed, tackling society’s most urgent problems, and they must set goals and benchmarks for their own performance.
• The free market, not government, ensures protection of individual rights and standards of quality, and delivers extraordinary prosperity to those who seek it.
• “Collaborators,” who coordinate efforts horizontally within and between companies; “synthesizers,” who integrate disparate areas of knowledge in innovative ways; “explainers,” who can explain complex matters to any audience; “personalizers,” who create value by providing the human touch to services and products; and “green people,” who have the knowledge and skills to fix environmental problems.
• Only those who love what they do and provide unique value will really prosper.
• Openness to innovation, adaptability, frugality, tenacity, patience, and hard work make all the difference to a nation’s success.
• In your field of work, see what can be achieved by “setting the standard.” With a big, clear vision in place, you can make the most of any opportunity that comes your way.
• If your business is to thrive, it will engage you in a process of constant personal development. For it to change, you have to change too.
• Everyone who becomes wealthy in the modern world knows the power of leverage: using other people’s resources and technology to multiply the effect of what you do.

The three principles of an enlightened millionaire are:

1. Do no harm—be ethical, honest, and seek win/win outcomes.
2. Do much good—improve the lives of many; by enriching others you enrich yourself.
3. Operate out of stewardship—create wealth so you can give it away; financial blessings are to be shared.

• “No man becomes rich unless he enriches others.”
• You need a team to obtain your dream. Success is not a solo project.
• Having a top mentor is the quickest way to climb the millionaire mountain.
• “You can rest assured that if you devote your time and attention to the highest advantage of others, the Universe will support you, always and in the nick of time.”
• Finally, to get and retain customers, always offer something free: a report, diagnosis, CD, or book to everyone who registers with you. Don’t forget the law of prosperity: To get you must always first give.
• Genuine prosperity is not won at the expense of the earth.
• The more positive you think and feel in each moment, the more open is your connection to the Source, or provider of all things and all love.
• “No one has ever been known to achieve permanent success without doing more than he was paid for.”
• The basic law of prosperity is that to receive, you must first provide something of great value.
• “A positive mental attitude (PMA) is the starting point of all riches, whether they be riches of a material nature or intangible riches.”
• Having a dream and thinking big are the basic elements of all great enterprises and fortunes.
• Before anything else, the fundamental purpose in starting any new enterprise is to create meaning. Start off catering to a small market, and if what you are doing is worthwhile, other opportunities will emerge.
• It is better to have a reputation to risk than no business at all.

Tips on naming your enterprise:

1. The name should start with a letter early in the alphabet, so you are always at the top of any list.
2. Don’t have numbers in the name.
3. Have a name with verb potential (e.g., “Xerox it,” “Google her”).
4. Avoid trendiness (e.g., only lower-case letters).

• To succeed in business, balance boldness and promotion with patience, caution, and flexibility.
• Helping people who have no way of returning the favor is a means of thanking the universe for the many gifts you have received, including family and friends, good health, and economic success.
• The mindset and income patterns of the rich are totally different to those of the poor and middle class.
• Alert investors who focus on the fundamentals and do not get swayed by market sentiments can outperform the professionals.

Real Estate

• Buying rental properties is one of the lowest-risk and best-performing forms of investment.
• The important point about real-estate investing, in contrast to stocks, is safety of capital. History demonstrates that investing in real estate provides both good cash returns and very good capital appreciation.
• Mundis defines debt as anything you have used or are obliged to pay but have not yet paid for: credit card balances, store card balances, personal loans, taxes, rent, phone bills, loans from friends, child support, tuition fees, and so on—basically, anything you owe that is not backed by collateral. Home loans are not really debt, in that they are secured against the house.
• Getting your own home is an important first step on the road to wealth.

If you really want to be a millionaire, Bach says, you need do just three things:

1. Decide to Pay Yourself First 10 per cent of what you earn, 
2. Make it Automatic, and 
3. Buy a home and pay it off early.

• Give away 10 percent of all money that comes to you: “There is nothing that keeps a person's mind so fearless and so free to receive the good constantly coming to him as the practice of tithing.” Make sure that the organization you are giving money to is officially a charity and you will also get tax benefits on what you contribute.
• To ensure their financial freedom, women need to have new respect for their relationship to money and defy cultural conditioning.
• The worlds were formed by the word of God. Things which are seen are not made of things which do appear.
• If you believe that the nature of God is abundance, you can begin to believe in the possibility of unlimited wealth on earth. We live in a world of plenty, and virtually every problem is solvable if we put our minds to it. God Wants You to Be Rich.
• If you know the universe to be an abundant place, you won’t fear not having the resources to pursue your purpose or mission in life.
• Things come to you easily when you live in a state of love and gratitude. Dwelling on thoughts of Spirit, God, and love leads you to everything you need, plus a host of blessings you never even expected or wanted.
• Mother Teresa, for example, thought only of the work she needed to do, and trusted that the money she needed to keep doing it would come. With the strength of her faith, it always did.
• Lynne Twist’s meeting with Mother Teresa shocked her, because she was told that part of her life’s work should be to sympathize with the wealthy, many of whom suffer isolation, mistrust, damaged relationships, and “hardening of the heart.”
• The universe wants to show you abundance, but you have to meet it halfway, as a “co-creator.”
• The quickest way to get rich quick is not to get rich quick. You can become a millionaire, but over the course of a normal working life, following “the tortoise’s approach to wealth, not the hare’s.”
• We have healed many of the wounds in our marriage by working on our budget together.
• The freedom of innovators to do their thing led to “better jobs, higher wages, and cheaper goods with every new machine they invented, with every scientific or technological advance.”
• Make your business a powerful force for social change.

You are in alignment with the spiritual laws of money if you:

1. Do the life’s work you were born to do, which is always something that helps others and fulfills your talents and interests simultaneously.
2. Engage in cooperation rather than competition, looking for everyone to win in all situations.
3. Invest, spend, or make money in a way that causes no harm and is good for the planet.

• Some think that money will bring them peace, but things such as meditation, stillness, and forgiveness are in fact better routes to peace than money.
• “Honor your integrity, and you will be repaid many times over with increased prosperity.”
• Nothing great is ever achieved without people making frightening leaps of faith.
• Huge enterprises can be built by giving people a small moment of joy in their day.
• We are more likely to help others, and be in a position to help them, when we have our own needs covered.
• Wealth is what you accumulate, not what you spend.

The warning signs of a debt problem. They include:

1. You are constantly juggling payment demands, still dealing with last month’s bills when the new ones arrive.
2. You regularly miss payment-due demands and find yourself in arrears.
3. You stop opening your mail because of the fear of what it contains.
4. You stop wanting to know how much is left in your bank account, always fearing the worst.
5. You are ignorant of the terms of your various loans and card agreements; all you know is what your limit is and how much you can spend before it is reached.
6. You rarely pay off more than the minimum due on your credit cards, and when you max out on one card, you turn to the other one/s.
7. Where once you paid cash for most things, now you use store cards.
8. When you buy things on credit, you opt for the longest payback terms available.
9. You use your credit card for cash advances, and often borrow small amounts from friends to get you through to the next paycheck.
10. You are delighted when a credit card company increases your limit or offers to give you a new card, as it makes you feel like a person of “worth,  accomplishment and responsibility.”
11. You get a sense of accomplishment out of just meeting basic expenses for food, shelter, and clothing.
12. You have little or no savings or investments, no back-up if you get unemployed or ill.
13. You have little idea of your monthly costs and outgoings or how they match up to what you earn.

Your Money or Your Life provides lots of great tips for becoming frugally minded, including:

1. Never go shopping on the spur of the moment (“He who hesitates saves money”).
2. Don’t go shopping as a form of leisure (“Needs expand to encompass whatever you want to buy on impulse”).
3. Use what you have longer. Using everything for 20 percent longer can save you a lot over a year.
4. Love materials. Learn more about them and what they need to stay in good shape.
5. Pay with cash. You spend on average 23 percent more if you are using cards.

Seven common denominators of the wealthy:

1. They live well below their means.
2. They allocate their time, energy, and money efficiently, in ways conducive to building wealth.
3. They believe that financial independence is more important than displaying high social status.
4. Their parents did not provide money handouts.
5. Their adult children are economically self-sufficient.
6. They are proficient in targeting market opportunities.
7. They chose the right occupation.

Financially educating your children. 

1. Don’t give monetary gifts to your adult children. Gifts will make them financially dependent on you and will encourage them to be consumers. Instead, teach them your habits of frugality and discipline.
2. Don’t reveal your wealth to your children, at least not fully, until they are financially established adults. Otherwise, they may start spending more money than they should, in anticipation of receiving a large inheritance, and discussions about inheritance can undermine family relationships.
3. Teach your children that what matters is achievement, not material symbols of success. Money can be a measure of achievement, but it certainly isn’t the only one.

Society

• Don’t be afraid to be different. On entering any new field or an industry, aim to really shake it up and provide new value.
• Be willing to fail in public, and you have jumped the hurdle holding most people back from getting rich.
• The “rat race” involves working to buy luxuries that you don’t have enough time to enjoy. By living on less, you can actually enjoy life more.
• Generating, using, and spending money in a way that is consistent with your deepest values has a healing effect not only on you but on the world.
• A series of workshops helped to steer many people from feeling hopeless to instead formulating a new vision of self-sufficient communities. This vision resulted in building of roads, farms, and fisheries, reduced crime by up to 70 percent in some areas, and in many areas doubled incomes.
• The spirit of capitalism is not greed and consumption, but the creation of order and the best use of resources.
• Don’t worry about the state of the economy, as if it is a reason holding you back. Instead, believe that you yourself can alter the economy through what you create.

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50 Success Classics Winning Wisdom for Work & Life

Success Classics

1. Optimism: Optimism is power. This is a secret discovered by all who succeed against great odds.Optimistic people tend to succeed not simply because they believe that everything will turn out right, but because the expectation of success makes them work harder. If you expect little, you will not be motivated even to try.
2. A definite aim, purpose, or vision: Success requires a concentration of effort. Most people disperse their energies over too many things and so fail to be outstanding in anything.
3. Willingness to work: With hard work you acquire knowledge about yourself that idleness never reveals.
4. Discipline: Enduring success is built on discipline. Like compound interest, this subject may be boring, but its results in the long term can be spectacular.
5. An integrated mind: Successful people trust their intuition, and because intuitions are usually right, they seem to enjoy more luck than others.
6. Prolific reading: Look into the habits of the successful and you will find that they are usually great readers. If you can read about the accomplishments of those you admire, you cannot help but lift your own sights.
7. Risk taking: Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Be action oriented.
8. Realizing the power of expectation: Successful people expect the best and they generally get it, because expectations have a way of attracting to you their material equivalent.
9. Mastery: Advanced beings can turn any situation to their advantage.
10. Well-roundedness: Achievements mean little if we are not a success as a person. The capacities to love, listen, and learn are vital for our own well-being.

Becoming a leader involves:

1. Continuous learning and never-dying curiosity.
2. A compelling vision: leaders first define their reality (what they believe is possible), then set about “managing their dream.”
3. Developing the ability to communicate that vision and inspire others to follow it.
4. Tolerating uncertainty and taking on risk: a degree of daring.
5. Personal integrity: self-knowledge, candor, maturity, welcoming criticism.
6. Being a one-off, an original: “Leaders learn from others, but are not made by others.”
7. Reinvention: to create new things sometimes involves recreating yourself. You may be influenced by your genes and environment, but leaders take all their influences and create something unique.
8. Taking time off to think and reflect, which brings answers and produces resolutions.
9. Passion for the promises of life: a belief in the best, for yourself and others.
10. Seeing success in small, everyday increments and joys, not waiting years for the Big Success to arrive.
11. Using the context of your life, rather than surrendering to it.

Great ideas for Salesperson:

1. The best salespeople do not “sell”—they find out what the other person wants, then help them find the best way to get it.
2. When trying to sell something, talk mostly in terms of “you” and “your.” This lets the other person know you are thinking mainly of their interests.
3. Forget witty conversation—be a good listener instead.
4. Invest in increasing your knowledge of your own industry. You can’t afford not to.
5. In contacts with clients, praise your competitors. It shows clients you are even-handed and won’t hide anything from them.
6. Use “witnesses” (i.e., satisfied clients) to sell your product to new clients. Then you can say, “Don’t listen to me, listen to them.”
7. Use a magic question to keep yourself in the presence of a potential client. Ask them: “How did you happen to get into this business, Mr/s…?” The history of a person’s career is always of the highest interest to them.
8. Prepare for an audience of one as you would an audience of a hundred; i.e., prepare properly for every meeting.
9. Be like Abraham Lincoln with his famous two-minute Gettysburg Address, and remember that the book of Genesis is only 442 words long—become a “master of brevity.”
10. When you greet someone, say their name.
11. For 30 days, smile frequently and watch it transform your life.
12. Don’t ever engage another person in argument. Instead, ask questions whose answers are likely to bring them round to your viewpoint.
13. To succeed as a salesperson, you require a level of self-discipline, determination, and courage that will serve you well in any other field.

The five laws of gold

1. Money comes to those who save.
2. Money multiplies for those who invest it.
3. Money stays with the person who entrusts it to wise people.
4. Money is lost when invested in things with which you are not familiar.
5. Money is lost at a fast rate by pursuing get-rich-quick schemes.

Individual Success

1. Make your own luck. Whatever you do, do it to your utmost. Become a reader. Be a saver, but be generous. Never cheat, steal, or lie. Don’t drink or smoke.
2. 12 words that you must repeat to yourself three times a day so you remember to spend your time productively. This self-instruction reads, “I must do the most productive thing possible at every given moment.”
3. Success leaves clues, but they must be acted on.
4. Be voracious in your learning, and ensure that others benefit from your intellectual and monetary wealth.
5. The more you read about the lives and actions of successful people, the more likely it is that you will set the bar higher for yourself.
6. Measuring your life daily against written goals is a fundamental of success.
7. You don’t need to worry about the details of how the goal will be achieved, however; what is important is to be certain and exact about what you want.
8. “There are no unrealistic goals, only unrealistic deadlines.” If you fail to make the one you’ve set, don’t conclude that goal setting doesn’t work. 
9. Instead, seek to increase your knowledge of it. Remember that clear goals provide the strength to keep going; without them it is easy to collapse at the first obstacle. 
10. “Thinking big” does work in relation to career goals, financial security, and great relationships—but it is more significant than that. You are challenged to see yourself in a brighter light, to have a larger conception of life.
11. Enlarge your circle: These relationships were not cultivated so that he could name-drop, but so that he could learn directly from their unique knowledge and experience. Always seek out interesting people.
12. Enlarge your understanding of success to include self-knowledge and greater connection to others. You have everything in you that you need to succeed.
13. Seek knowledge and value, not money alone: Knowledge gained from reading and study represented real value; a good life was one that truly opened the mind. Money alone was worthless.
14. Work for your own success, but ensure that your achievements lift up the wider community.
15. Clarity about goals saves a huge amount of energy that can be deployed productively in other areas.
16. What you believe about yourself, the world will believe about you.
17. The best way of developing self-confidence quickly is through speaking to groups. Remember that enthusiasm alone can transform your life and your earnings. Every Saturday morning he sat down and planned the week ahead.
18. Be master of your mood Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine.
19. Dharma is the duty that is yours to fulfill in your lifetime. Adharma is going against your purpose in life, which only gives you and the world misery.
20. Create a noble aim for your life, then make use of every moment to achieve it.
21. Whatever you desire is probably close at hand, if you are willing to open your eyes and your mind.
22. Always imagine the best possible outcome, and the forming of reality will follow this design.
23. What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.
24. “Expect the best, and get it.” Wiseman, too, found that people’s lives show a remarkable degree of fit with their expectations. Not only do they feel that they deserve good things, but they feel some amount of control over making them materialize.
25. Through visualization of what you desire on a repetitive basis, the thing will come into being through the organization of existing modes of production. This is the secret shortcut to gaining what you need.
26. Life will pay whatever price you ask of it.
27. Winners almost always do what they think is the most productive thing possible at every given moment; losers never do.
28. The simplest, most uncomplicated way is often the most successful.
29. Your body is smarter than you think: trust it to achieve the goals you have set.
30. The burst of energy, creativity, and resolve that comes from existing in the moment is  what the writer Eckhart Tolle calls “the power of now.”
31. Hard work, continuous self-improvement, and a sense of building for the future create identity. From identity comes focus, from focus, success.
32. Be the best at what you do and the world will beat a path to your door.

Organizational Success

1. Think unconventionally Despise the status quo Dell staff are told to think like entrepreneurs or as if they are owners of Set big goals that may just be do-able Love change.
2. Continually refine your thinking power. Imagine something the world would really need. Make it cheaply as possible and sell it at the lowest price.
3. Carnegie had two rules for speaking: 1 Talk to people, not at them. 2 Be yourself, don’t try to be an “orator."
4. Every successful person knows how to sell what they offer. Enthusiasm and organization are the basic elements in selling.
5. I have found that the best way to get another to acquire a virtue, is to impute it to him. Let a person know you think they can do something, and they will.
6. Achievers have an ingrained philosophy of “It can be done,” while the rest of the population tend to believe the opposite, focusing on fear rather than faith. Successful people are continually wondering “What if?” and setting difficult goals for themselves. They have a different attitude to failure, which is seen more as feedback than as any permanent comment on themselves.
7. Contrary to common understanding, a good man’s actions are not always gentle. They may be ruthless, cold and dispassionate.
8. Willingness to see the benefit in every disappointment may seem a cliché, but it is a mark of successful people.
9. If you buy goods at a high price, he believed, “you’ve just bought someone else’s inefficiency".
10. One of the duties of the leader is to lift up those who are not able to advance themselves.
11. Everyone hungers for appreciation and acceptance. If you can genuinely provide these you will have the key to human influence.
12. Deliver real stars—and stars build great businesses.
13. If you treat your people right, they will treat guests right.” If they are stressed, dissatisfied or poorly trained, it is the customers who will feel the effects.
14. Speak and act well and you will get out of any difficult situation.
15. Without frequent sharpening you become blunt in a productivity sense and lose the ability to connect with the people you love and influence those you work with.
16. Make distinctions, look for subtlety and nuance. Success requires fine observation of human nature and refinement of the self.
17. True leadership arises in the full expression of a person’s unique potential.
18. Recognize and use your background in the service of attaining your goals, and remember to give something back.
19. Whatever best expresses your brilliance will inevitably lead you to wealth. It will free you from poverty and give you a mindset that attracts abundance.
20. Service is the key to success. Don’t just sell things, find out what people really want. This requires greater than normal thought and observation.
21. Leaders seek results. Many have wishes, but effective leaders act.
22. The practice of regular smiling creates a feeling of happiness and goodwill. 
23. Victory comes to those who have developed an ethic of constant refinement and improvement, not those who worry about the competition. People with great character, developed over time, naturally become leaders.
24. It is not that unsuccessful people never see opportunities; they do. But they differ from people who are called winners in that they rarely have the will or the courage to act on a good idea.
25. Even if you are not brilliant, it does not matter in the long run, because the law of averages means that if you persist you will reap rewards.
26. Never underestimate how far you can go by merely being yourself.
27. Courage is more exhilarating than fear, and in the long run it is easier. We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up, seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared, discovering we have the strength to stare it down.
28. Genius, when you look more closely at it, usually turns out to be the result of uncommon dedication to a task.
29. Seven traits of successful people: passion, belief, strategy, clarity of values, energy, bonding power, and mastery of communication.

Prosperity

1. Wake up late and you seem to be chasing the day; rise early and you feel in control. “Early to bed, and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.”
2. Beware of little expenses; a small leak will sink a great ship… and moreover, fools make Feasts, and wise men eat them.
3. Those who cannot appreciate time have the most money problems.
4. “Know your best quality, your outstanding gift.” Discovering your area of superiority is a central task in life; without this effort you will waste your time imitating others.
5. Wealth comes from increasing your power to think and developing your ability to access the universe’s intelligence.
6. Consciousness was not confined to the brain; rather, the brain was an element of the great unified mind. Therefore, to be open to this larger mind was to have access to all knowledge, power, and creativity.
7. Optimism is power.
8. The ability not only to accept change but to create it is a mark of the dynamic individual.
9. If you do not change, you can become extinct.
10. Learn how money could work for you; unlearn the expectation that you must work for money.
11. Opportunities come from new ideas. Money spent on self-improvement is always a wise investment.
12. Energy, not time, is the fundamental currency of high performance. Realize that you can’t manage time; instead, adopt better ways to use your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual energy.
13. Spiritual energy, or purpose, enables you to manage your time much better because you know your priorities.
14. Downtime It is a very good plan every now and then to go away and have a little relaxation… When you come back to the work your judgement will be surer, since to remain constantly at work will cause you to lose the power of judgement.
15. Unlike most addictions, workaholism is often admired, encouraged and materially well-rewarded.” Yet look at the costs. In research studies, those who describe themselves as workaholics are also much more likely to drink more than the average, have stress-related illness, and get divorced.
16. Intermittently disengaging is what allows us to passionately reengage.
17. The longer an employee stays in a particular organization, the more disengaged they are likely to become. Jobs come and go, but what is your real contribution to society, what is your purpose? If you can align your working life with your deepest desires and talents, you will not have to worry about motivation.
18. If you want to be a real leader, Loehr and Schwartz say, you must become a master of your own physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual energies.
19. As you build a bicep or tricep Physically. Emotional flexibility is the ability to handle a range of emotions, even to choose what you will feel, rather than having a small bag of responses that make you rigid and defensive.
20. You can develop your emotional, mental, and spiritual muscles— such as empathy, creativity, confidence, patience, and kindness—in the same way. 
21. To attract prosperity, don’t ever think about yourself as poor or say that you can’t afford something. Count your blessings, focus on abundance, look only for opportunities. If you don’t have something that you desire, use the “vacuum law” of prosperity and create room for it by throwing out old goods. Make way for growth.
22. Prosperity thinking acknowledges the connection between the invisible substance or energy that makes up the universe and your thoughts. By connecting the two, you have greater control over the creation of matter.

Society

1. Genuine success is never an accident. The prosperous have a culture of progress that combines curiosity and persistent application.
2. With malice towards none; with charity towards all... let us strive on to finish the work we are in, to bind up the nation’s wounds
3. A nation should not be judged by how it treats its highest citizens, but its lowest ones.
4. The world does not demand that you be a lawyer, minister, doctor, farmer, scientist, or merchant; it does not dictate what you shall do, but it does require that you be a master in whatever you undertake.
5. If there were no difficulties there would be no success.
6. There is something infinitely better than to be a millionaire of money, and that is to be a millionaire of brains, of culture, of helpfulness to one’s fellows, a millionaire of character.
7. The art of progress is to preserve order amid change and to preserve change amid order.
8. Companies that don’t risk anything will inevitably find themselves falling behind those that do. You can lead change or it can lead you.
9. Truly great companies maintain a set of core values and a core purpose that remain fixed while their business strategies and practices continually adapt to a changing world.”
10. If you know who you are, you can be more flexible in what you decide to do, and clearer about what not to do.
11. There is basically one problem in life: congestion. There is basically one solution: circulation. Systematic giving is, therefore, a powerful practice that blesses every phase of our lives, as it keeps us attuned to the wealth of the universe.
12. God does not want you to be poor; appreciate the universe’s abundance and your right to prosperity.
13. Fortune favors the bold. Life does seem to clear a path for those who know what they want. Nature respects purpose. Writing things down clarifies your purpose in a way that idle thought cannot.
14. Achievement is more meaningful when it springs from a base of physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
15. While therapy will focus on your problems, a good life coach will work with you on your possibilities.
16. Successful people see things less in terms of good or bad, but as results.
17. Particles do not slowly change and develop over time—they make quantum leaps. Start to think of your brain in an impersonal way; it is your servant to program in order to achieve your highest goals and live by your highest values.
18. Action drives out thought, whereas leaders set aside time for solitude to tap their supreme thinking power.
19. Persistence is not a guarantee of success. Combine persistence with experimentation.
20. Desire and persistence mark you out from the rest.
21. The true leader brings out the best in people in even the toughest situations.
22. People are not born with a millionaire mind. It is a set of attitudes and knowledge that anyone can adopt and acquire.
23. The primary cause of success in life is the ability to set and achieve goals. That’s why the people who do not have goals are doomed forever to work for those who do. You either work to achieve your own goals or you work to achieve someone else’s goals.
24. The successful person has unusual skill at dealing with conflict and ensuring the best outcome for all.
25. One hundred victories in one hundred battles is not the most skillful. Subduing the other’s military without battle is the most skillful.
26. It is natural and logical that you should become rich through the use of your creative powers.
27. The evolution of the world depended on each of us seeking riches in an honest way.
28. All the great prosperity writers say that the origin of wealth is thought, rather than things.
29. You want wealth so that you can pursue your interests and develop your mind, travel, surround yourself with beauty, and be in a position to give generously.
30. Lucky people see what is there, rather than trying to find what they want to see.
31. You can have everything in life if you will just help others to get what they want.
32. A woman is like a teabag. You never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.
33. Nine out of ten married millionaires say that their marriage has been a significant factor in their success. A spouse provides on-tap psychological support and advice that is likely to be honest.
34. Success has more to do with your marital relationship than anything else, but what is the key ingredient to make that a happy relationship? Loyalty.
35. Success is most likely when it becomes a necessity.
36. The poor need inspiration more than charity, and so you should endeavor to show them the path to wealth rather than trying to alleviate poverty.
37. To live soulfully a human being must have love, and it is difficult to love when you are poverty stricken.
38. Consider changing your way of learning and relating to others, and reap the performance benefits.
39. Coaching is about optimizing individuality and uniqueness. It is therefore a more positive way of seeing people.
40. Understand the principles and you understand luck itself. More importantly, these principles can be used to enhance the amount of good luck that you experience in your life.

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50 Psychology Classics

Mind

• Feelings are not facts; you can change your feelings by changing your thinking.
• The majority of negative thoughts that cause us emotional turmoil are plain wrong or at least distortions of the truth, but we accept them without question.
• If we know how we generate negative emotions through particular thoughts, especially irrational ones, we have the secret to never being desperately unhappy again.
• Trust your intuition, rather than technology, to protect you from violence.
• What we think we lack determines what we will become in life.
• A dream can seem like the opposite of what we wish for, because we may be defensive about or want to cover up many of our wishes, so the only way a dream can make an issue known is by raising it in its opposite sense.
• Dreams were therefore much more than idle nighttime entertainments—in revealing our unconscious motivations they were a key to understanding human nature.
• Unconscious mind, which if accessed in a trance state can solve any problem and return us to our true, powerful self.
• “A problem well defined is a problem half solved.”
• Learning how to think more effectively is not difficult and can dramatically improve our ingenuity in solving problems.
• To get win–win outcomes, we have to focus not on the solution but on each party’s needs.
• When one aspect of us achieves wholeness, there is still some larger self that is trying to make sense of our experience.

Society

• People play games as a substitute for real intimacy, and every game, however unpleasant, has a particular payoff for one or both players.
• If we play too many “bad” games for too long, they become selfdestructive. The more games we play, the more we expect others to play them too;
• Although interpersonal communication is humanity’s greatest accomplishment, the average person does not communicate well. Low-level  communication leads to loneliness and distance from friends, lovers, spouses, and children—as well as ineffectiveness at work.
• Good people skills not only get you what you want, they bring out the best in your relationships.
• If we become more conscious of our ingrained reactions and behavior patterns, our life can begin to be genuinely free.
• Self-esteem occurs naturally when we choose to live according to reason and our own principles.
• If you know a person’s personality type their behavior begins to make sense.
• Know the techniques of psychological influence to avoid becoming their victim.
• All personalities can be measured according to two or three basic biologically determined dimensions.
• What seem like very personal changes are often simply transitions from one season of life to another.
• The conscious acceptance of suffering or fate can be transformed into one of our greatest achievements.
• Not forgiving doesn’t really punish the perpetrator, whereas forgiving can transform ourselves and bring back our life satisfaction.

Role models

• If you’re willing to invest a little time in yourself, you can learn to master your moods more effectively, just as an athlete who participates in a daily conditioning program can develop greater endurance and strength.
• Exercise is the best mood regulator. A brisk walk of 5–15 minutes when we are feeling tired paradoxically restores our spirits and can energize us for up to two hours.
• The people we most admire are smart in certain ways, they have refined their way of thinking and doing to an unusual extent.
• Directed or intelligent thought, which has an aim, adapts that aim to reality, and can communicate it in language. This thinking is based on experience and logic.
• In the vast majority of fields, what makes a star performer is the ability to deploy exceptional emotional intelligence.
• Real creativity can only emerge once we have mastered the medium or domain in which we work.

Relationships

• The very happy people spend the least time alone and the most time socializing, and they are rated highest on good relationships by themselves and also by their friends.
• Be alive every minute in your physical world. Listen to your body; don’t live in abstractions.
• A more powerful and often more damaging defense is repression, because it requires the most energy to keep it in place.
• Healthy people engage with life: “eating and food-getting, loving and making love, aggressing, conflicting, communicating, perceiving, learning,” and so on.
• The three pillars of respect that really produce good relationships: empathy, nonpossessive love, and genuineness.
• Boys gain self-esteem through independence from others, while females gain it through the closeness of their social bonds.
• While some couples believe that romantic dinners or holidays can make a marriage happy, in fact it is the little daily attentions given to the other person (turning toward) that count. Better, longerlasting marriages are those in which the power is shared.
• Women crave emotional intimacy, interdependence, and verbal affirmation in their daily life with their partner, while men assume that financial security and a good sex life form the basis of a successful marriage.
• Warm physical bonds in infancy are vital to our becoming healthy adults.
• Children are not simply little adults, thinking less efficiently— they think differently.
• A genuine relationship or interaction is one in which you are comfortable to be yourself, and in which the other person clearly sees your potential.

Happiness

• Awareness of life as a series of choices—one way advances us toward personal growth, the other involves a regression.
• Paradoxically, happiness may lie in limiting our choices rather than increasing them.
• We think we want choice, but when we actually have it, it becomes less attractive—too much choice actually causes us distress.
• The recipe for happiness is simple and twofold: 1) make your decisions irreversible; and 2) constantly appreciate the life you do have.
• Happiness has little to do with pleasure, and much to do with developing personal strengths and character.

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