Ladder of Love

Incremental growth in relation between husband and wife

Sex >   Love >   Friendliness       > Devotion    > Compassion
  V           V                 V                        V                      V
Lust > Caring > Non domination > Sacredness > Forgiveness

From the above, it can be seen that the centre of sex is lust. The centre of love is caring. The centre of friendliness is non-domination. The centre of devotion is sacredness. The centre of compassion is forgiveness.

The relationship between a husband and wife begins in lust. The next stage is caring -they feel for each other. The third stage is the friendship that blossoms between the two. In pure friendship, persons can remain in equality. They would not feel that one is inferior to the other. They would not plot to ruin each other. There is no domination of one over the other.

When friendship develops between the husband and wife, both of them would cherish their relationship as something sacred; they would protect the relationship!

The final stage in this relationship is compassion. The basis of compassion is forgiveness. Whether it is the husband or wife, it is but natural, mistakes do happen. Forgiving mistakes made by the other is the last and highest stage of the relationship. Only at this level, does a relationship become complete.

Can you transform your sexual relationship into a sacred relationship? In this process a spiritual intimacy will develop. If your relationship has forgiving quality, then you don't bug each other but lovingly hug each other. Only in this space, is a relationship fulfilling.
- Oh mind relax please, Swami Sukhabodhananda

Distinguish between the usefulness of Quality Time and Quantity Time. Understand the ladder of Love. Learn to see Elegance in what is and Express it.

A Shallow man is one who is full of oneself. Transform Sex into prayer.
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